Thursday, February 2, 2012

One-Way < Two-Way

"Two-way."


When you hear the words, "two-way," what comes to your mind? For me I think of two-way radios, two-way pagers, two-way mirrors, two-way streets and two-way relationships.

Yeah, yeah...I know that was a corny intro, so let me cut to the chase. First, can we keep it real? You sure? Okay...


At the end of last year and beginning of this year something had been churning in my brain and it is one-way relationships. At one of my job staff retreats, I learned the concept of 100/100 instead of 50/50 [which is how I grew up knowing it]. The theory is if two people give 100% and one person slips up at any given time, there will still be 100% sustaining that relationship. Opposed to the 50/50 theory where both people are only giving 50% and if someone slips up, it's only sustaining 50% of the relationship which requires 100%. Interesting concept, no?

Anyhow, isn't it beautiful to have a two-way relationship, where you both give 100%? Where both of you initiate conversations [not just the same person over and over], both of you initiate quality time [again, not just the same person over and over], both of you care for each other and show it, etc. It's a wonderful feeling to be wanted [whether in a friendship way or even a romantic way]. One of the best feelings in the world is knowing a person is there for you at all times AND [you] being there for someone at all times.


Going back to what was churning in my mind. I had been thinking about some one-way relationships I had in my life with some people I care about. And I know this may sound wrong, but towards the end of last year, I decided I was going to let the one-way relationships go [no harsh feelings, but just letting bygones be bygones]. The truth of the matter is, it hurt...a lot. 


Last month, I remember sitting in my car and feeling so hurt and then it hit me [like a bus]! This is how God MUST feel when I give him the cold shoulder and only have a one-way relationship with Him! You know how you feel like you're having an "aha moment [Oprah style]"? That was me! Here I was sitting in my self-pity when I've done the very same things to God, my Father & 
BEST FRIEND! Quickly, I shook out of my one-sided mess and shifted my attention to what I have done to God in the past. There have been times I barely give God even 50%, let alone 100%! There have been times I don't initiate conversations with Him and He is always there initiating them with me. How selfish of me. There have been times I don't initiate quality time with Him while He is there yearning to spend quality time with me. The sadness I felt that day in the car had *nothing* on the sadness we must cause God due to our "50%". 

How many times does God show us He loves and cares for us and we don't return the love? I just thank God that He isn't like me where I was ready to give up on my one sided relationships, just like that. We would deserve for God to give up on us, but He never has and will never do so. Thank you Lord Jesus for that assurance that you will never give us less than 100% even when we only deserve that 5%! 


Where can I go from your Spirit? 

Where can I flee from your presence? 
If I go up to the heavens, you are there; 
if I make my bed in the depths, you are there. 
If I rise on the wings of the dawn, 
if I settle on the far side of the sea, 
even there your hand will guide me, 
your right hand will hold me fast. 
Psalm 139


XoXo,

Nissy