Thursday, October 23, 2014

Broken Together

Every so often I hear a song on the radio that instantly (and I do mean instantly) captivates my soul. 

This past week I was lying on the couch and heard this song and had to Shazam it to learn more about the origin. When I Googled the lyrics I found out the meaning behind this precious song (see following paragraph) and was stunned. Few things take my breath away and this was surely one of them. This song is perfect for us married folks. No matter what anyone says or portrays, we have ALL experienced some strain in our marriage at some point or another. What we decide to do with the strain is another story. Some cannot work or choose not to through the pain and strife and decide that being apart is best (and quite frankly, sometimes that IS best for the couple). Others painstakingly work through the tribulation and end up stronger than they were prior to the pain. If you are currently married and are experiencing hardship, know you are not alone. You are not perfect. And neither is your spouse. Be broken together and fight for what God intentionally placed together. 


Recommendation: Read the following paragraph and then watch the video with your spouse.

“Marriage is tough. We bring a lot of fairytales to the picture when it comes to marriage. We bring them to the altar with us [thinking]: ‘This is going to be perfect. We don’t have to be apart. We can just wake up together every morning and no one is going to have morning breath. We’re not going to have any problems.’ And then the problems hit and you don’t know where to file those into your picture. . . The idea I’m trying to say is: ‘Can you lay down who you thought I was and love the ‘me’ that is? Can we take this from where we are now and realize that I can’t be that person?’ Only God is going to be able to make this work and broken people can be broken together. To me, it’s probably the most important song on the record.”
--Casting Crowns

What do you think about when you look at me
I know were not the fairytale you dreamed wed be
You wore the veil, you walked the aisle, you took my hand
And we dove into a mystery

How I wish we could go back to simpler times
Before all our scars and all our secrets were in the light
Now on this hallowed ground, weve drawn the battle lines
Will we make it through the night

Its going to take much more than promises this time
Only God can change our minds

Maybe you and I were never meant to be complete
Could we just be broken together
If you can bring your shattered dreams and Ill bring mine
Could healing still be spoken and save us
The only way we'll last forever is broken together

How it must have been so lonely by my side
We were building kingdoms and chasing dreams and left love behind
Im praying God will help our broken hearts align
And we wont give up the fight

Thursday, October 9, 2014

Bullying Resources/Recursos para Bullying

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Information taken from Montgomery County Committee on Hate/Violence and Montgomery County Office of Human Rights Bullying Guide [A quick guide on what you need to know about identifying it and interceding it./Una breve guía de lo que usted necesita saber acerca de la identificación y la intercesión.]

Definition: Bullying is unwanted behavior that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated over time with the intent to cause harm. Bullying behavior may include: making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and deliberately excluding someone from a group.

Definición: "Bullying" significa un comportamiento no deseado que implica un desequilibrio de poder real o percibido. El comportamiento se repite en el tiempo con la intención de causar daño. La conducta de intimidación puede incluir: hacer amenazas, la difusión de rumores, atacar a alguien físicamente o verbalmente, o deliberadamente excluir a alguien de un grupo. 

Information for Students/Información para Estudiantes:
  • If you or someone you know is being bullied, seek help from an adult (e.g., parent, teacher, coach, principal, counselor, etc.). 
  • Si usted o alguien que usted conoce esta siendo intimidado, busca la ayuda de un adulto (por ejemplo: padre, maestro, director, consejero, entrenador, etc.).
  • Become familiar with your school's protocol for addressing bullying. 
  • Familiarizarse con el proceso de su escuela para hacer frente a la intimidación.
  • Know your state's laws and policies about bullying. 
  • Conozca las leyes y políticas del Estado sobre la intimidación.
  • Ask educators or other school personnel about anti-bullying programs (i.e., peer mediation) that may exist in your school. 
  • Pregunte a los maestros u otro personal escolar sobre los programas contra la intimidación (como la mediación entre iguales) que puedan existir en su escuela.
  • Be respectful to your peers. 
  • Ser respetuoso con sus compañeros.
Information for Parents/Información para Padres
  • Foster your child's confidence and independence and take action against their victimization. 
  • Fomentar la confianza y la independencia de su hijo y tomar medidas cuando él o ella es una víctima.
  • Do not encourage physical retaliation. 
  • No fomenta represalias físicas.
  • If your child is a victim or bully, contact the school to address the problem. 
  • Si su hijo es una víctima o un agresor, póngase en contacto con los funcionarios de la escuela para tratar el problema.
  • Request a parent-teacher conference so that all perspectives are considered. 
  • Solicite una cita con el maestro para que todos los puntos de vista pueden ser consideradas.
  • Attempt to speak with the bully's parents, but do so using an uncombative approach.  
  • Intente hablar con los padres del agresor utilizando un enfoque no combativo. 
  • Encourage your child to speak up against bullying when witnessed-be an active bystander.  
  • Anime a su hijo a hablar en contra de intimidación--para ser un espectador activo.
  • Seek additional help/support through community resources. 
  • Busque ayuda adicional o apoyo a través de las organizaciones comunitarias.
  • Become knowledgeable and informed about state laws and policies. 
  • Adquirir conocimientos e informados sobre las leyes estatales y las políticas sobre el acoso.
  • Get involved and build a sense of family-school collaboration (e.g. volunteer, join PTA group). 
  • Involúcrese y construir un sentido de la colaboración familia-escolar (voluntario en la escuela, unirse a la asociación de padres y maestros).
  • Monitor your child's internet activity for potential cyberbullying behaviors. 
  • Supervisar la actividad de su hijo en el Internet para interceptar comportamientos de intimidación cibernética.
Information for Teachers/Información para Maestros: 
  • Know what bullying looks like. Assuming that bullying only exists overtly is a myth and it can pose harm on individuals. 
  • Conozca que es el acoso. Es un error suponer que la intimidación solo existe abiertamente y pueden suponer daños a las personas.
  • Be on the lookout for bullying. 
  • Este en el puesto de observación para los comportamientos de intimidación. 
  • Never ignore a student's complaint or your observation of bullying, as your role goes beyond teaching in the classroom. 
  • Nunca ignore la queja de un estudiante o de su observación de la intimidación.
  • Understand the bullying state laws and policies. 
  • Haga un esfuerzo para entender las leyes estatales y las políticas contra la intimidación.
  • Adhere to school's policy, regulation (e.g., Code of Maryland Regulations [COMARI]) about bullying, harassment, or intimidation. 
  • Se adhieren a las regulaciones estatales y las políticas de la escuela acerca de la intimidación, el acoso o la intimidación. 
  • Collaborate with other community agencies (e.g., Department of Health and Human Services [DHHS], Department of Education) and other professionals such as school counselors, and psychologists to enhance your knowledge and skills on addressing bullying.
  • Colaborar con otras agencias u organizaciones de la comunidad (por ejemplo, el Departamento de Salud y Servicios Humanos, el Departamento de Educación) y otros profesionales (como los consejeros escolares y psicólogos) para mejorar su conocimiento y habilidades en hacer frente a la intimidación.

Additional Information and Resources/Recursos e información adicional:
For more information about the information listen in this brochure, please contact: 
Montgomery County Committee on Hate/Violence
Montgomery County Office of Human Rights
21 Maryland Avenue, 3rd Floor
Rockville, MD 20850